When I started ‘the world of work’ a few years ago, I had to make decisions that I never thought about before. I found my faith being tested every day, in little and big ways, that I didn’t know how to handle.
Before work, I was always surrounded by people like me. I attended a female-only Islamic school, and my circle of friends even in university were all Muslim females like me. Now, at work, I was surrounded by males, by non-Muslims, by people of all different cultures and faiths.
Amongst other things, corporate team lunches were a big challenge. At campus and school, we were all muslims so naturally we would only eat at strictly Halaal places. At work, where I was 1 Muslim amongst many non-Muslims, this was not the case.
In the beginning I felt obliged to go along, not really sure whether this was OK or not. I thought to myself: ‘As long as I don’t eat’ or “As long as I eat veg-only’ OR as long as I don’t drink out of the glassware’ . But I really wasn’t sure.
It took a really long time, and a lot of back and forth, till I could decide for myself what I was OK with and what not. I learned to say no when I wasn’t comfortable, and realised that this was perfectly fine. I’ve also become a lot more confident and I let my team mates know when I don’t feel comfortable joining, and even alternatives that I would prefer, and in most cases I’ve found that they generally are a lot more accommodating that I would have expected. With more and more Muslim-owned restaurants opening in South Africa, it gets easier to do this.
I’ve been contemplating writing about this for a while, since technically, even if I do decide what I am OK with, it is not really OK Islamically – I am still working with males, and interacting with them socially during corporate events without a Mahram. And whilst I am trying to share my journey with all of you, I didn’t want to write about areas in my life that I felt needed definite improvement. But I was chatting to a friend yesterday about this who said, your blog isn’t called justanotherperfectmuslimah, and that waiting till I was perfect before I wrote about it didn’t make sense, when I could be writing about challenges that other muslim sisters are probably facing as well.
So, I would really like to hear how some of you deal with these challenges at work, and if there is any advice you would like to impart of your muslim sisters?
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